Your child does well in school, but you feel like if she’d just sit still she could do that much better. Or maybe there are some output problems – writing is hard work for your child. Perhaps your super bright and fun little one doesn’t seem to be loving school the way you thought she would.
Emma, my eldest daughter, is a smart little miss. She didn’t enjoy school like I did. It broke my heart to see her struggle. How do I help her cope with something I have zero experience with?
I was an excellent student. I got A’s and was on the honour roll every year. School was easy for me (until University, but that’s a story for another time.) So imagine how I felt when Emma would fight going to school every day. EVERY DAY!
We were lucky to have an excellent grade 2 teacher. (Personally I feel this should have addressed in grade 1, but the teacher we had there was not the best – just my opinion.) Emma’s grade 2 teacher knew right from the beginning that there was something holding her back.
Investigating the issues
After a few sessions with the school Occupational Therapist it was suggested that Emma has a developmental delay in her fine motor skills. This makes printing a very difficult process for her. She grips her pencil incorrectly and way too hard. She also takes a very long time to get her thoughts onto paper and presses much too firmly.
We are lucky that we can afford to supplement the school board supplied Occupational Therapy with some private sessions at Make Way For Me. The ladies there are great and they delve much deeper than “fine motor, or developmental delay.” Emma was diagnosed (for lack of a better term) with a not-yet-integrated Moro Reflex. You can read a little about this in this post.
IEP Creation (to support developmental delay, or any other learning issues)
Just after the last report cards came home we were finally provided with an IEP from the school. An IEP is a report that documents where Emma is struggling and strategies to help her out at school. This website outlines the process and how an IEP is created.
A lot goes into the creation of an IEP: one on one time with the resource teacher and the child; phone calls back and forth to the parents; and teacher input from class interactions.
I’m pretty happy with the document the school put together for us. It looks like the recommendations they have suggested for Emma are the same as my private OT suggested as well. It’s encouraging to see the school taking some suggestions from the report provided by the private therapy.
Emma struggles with reading and writing. (I know, that sounds like everything, right?!) She’s very smart and she actually masks her difficulty sounding out words by having above average reading comprehension. I see the struggle with reading every day, but her compensation ability is really unbelievable.
And then there’s her terrible printing. She still reverses numbers and her printing is very uneven and messy. Her teacher this year has been scribing (writing her exact words down) for her and that takes a lot of pressure off.
The last report card had some improvement over last year. I’m hopeful with her coping mechanisms in place (keep reading to see what helps her) her grades will at least stay the same now that the IEP document is in place.
If you have a child that struggles with distraction in class, or while doing homework, here are a few items that may help.
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Pencil Grip – to help correctly hold a pen or pencil for less fatigue while writing.
Fidgets – a means to keep a child’s hands (or feet) busy while their minds are trying to learn new things.
Headphones – to reduce auditory stimuli for people who are easily distracted by sounds.
Wiggle Cushion – for wiggley children who need to move in their chairs to increase concentration.
Music – CDs to do homework to in order to reduce other distracting noises.
Slanted Surface – use a binder to create a surface to help your child’s arm placement for printing.
What’s working for us (sometimes)
Emma has been using pencil grips for a while and her writing is very slowly improving. I can read more of it now than I could a year ago. She also has just started using a wiggle cushion in class. I’m curious to see if it gives her a benefit.
The hardest part of all of these struggles is not knowing what is actually happening at the school. It’s great to talk to the teachers and put these measures in place for her, but I can’t be sure the methods are being used every day.
I can say since we’ve started investigating this, and having Occupational Therapy sessions, Emma is more relaxed at school and at home. Her grades have gone up since last year and I think she’s a happier girl.
If you think your child is struggling, talk to your teachers. They are there to help. I’m sure every school board has measures in place to assess, and assist, parents and children in having the best school life they can.
I feel like so much has changed since I was in elementary school. If you had to go to the “resource room” you were labelled, and not in a good way. It’s not like that anymore. Schools have finally figured out that all kids learn differently and they are trying hard to accommodate everyone. I was surprised to learn one of Emma’s classmates also visited Make Way For Me. It’s so great to see kids getting the help they need to be successful!
If you have a child who struggles at school I’d love to hear your experiences, and what is working for you now. Leave me a comment and share your story. I’m sure others would take comfort in your words as well!
I have learned more over the years, dealing with these issues. If you’re interested in further reading, here are my related posts: