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Most people think that once you become a mom, you can kiss your career goodbye as there’s no way you will be able to find the time to manage everything. Sure, motherhood does require a lot of your time and attention, but the idea that you can’t have both a career and a family life is far from the truth. On the contrary, we all know that becoming a mother is one of the best ways to become a pro at multitasking, but there are many other ways in which having kids can help you advance your career. With that in mind, here’s how you can use your motherhood to get ahead in your business life.
You’ll become more patient
Babies don’t come with manuals (unfortunately), so rest assured that you will develop the patience of a saint thanks to your child. They are tired, moody, loud, and often for no reason that you can see or fix. It often happens at the worst possible moment, like in the middle of a grocery store or during your favorite TV show. The thing is, there’s nothing you can do about it, it’s just how kids are. They don’t know what it means to have a deadline, enjoy a nice cup of coffee while reading a book, or even stay physically clean. And they know even less about being embarrassed. The only thing you can do is stay calm and learn how to handle your child’s mood changes in a peaceful, quiet way. And when you manage to do that, you will become a more patient person not just at home but at work as well.
You’ll become better at negotiating
As a parent, you will always have somebody to fight for ‒ your kids. Research has shown that women negotiate better when they do it on somebody else’s behalf. Therefore, when you find yourself having a hard time negotiating for a raise, promotion, better office, or anything else that you think you deserve ‒ think about your child. Observe the situation from the point of view of a mother; if having better working conditions will help you take better care of the most important person in your life, then you will definitely find it much easier to negotiate. In other words, instead of thinking about what you need, think about what your family needs.
You’ll get a chance to re-evaluate your career
Once you have a child, you become aware of your position ‒ not just as their mother, but also as somebody they will look up to and learn from. This thought will motivate you to do everything you can in order to be a good role model, which sometimes implies a change of career. Use the time off work to think about what makes you happy. For instance, if you find that you love working with kids, sign up for some fun and educational early childhood training courses, and turn your passion into a career. You will be much happier, and your child will notice it too.
Know your limits
In theory, there are no limits, and you can achieve whatever you set your mind to. However, in reality, there are many potential limits and you should be aware of them if you don’t want to constantly feel drained and anxious. In other words, if you don’t want any aspect of your life to suffer, make sure you know how much you can handle. For example, if your dream is to get a promotion and you are one big project away from getting it, instead of sacrificing your sleep so you could manage everything, let your partner or another family member take care of your child while you’re working on that important project. This way your child won’t be neglected, and you will still reach your goal. After all, your family is there to support you. You don’t need to do everything on your own, so don’t be afraid to ask for some help when needed.
Becoming a mother is in no way the end of your career. It can actually make you more successful than ever before by teaching you how to be patient, efficient, confident, and more aware of your needs. With that in mind, the only thing left for you to do is embrace the motherhood ‒ it won’t be easy, but it will be worth it.
Claire is a personal and professional development expert who believes that a positive attitude is one of the keys to success. She enjoys life to the fullest in the healthiest way possible and loves to share her insights into lifestyle, parenting, education, and entrepreneurship. Feel free to reach her on Facebook and Twitter.
Totally agree with it giving you time to rethink your options and follow your passions. #mmbc
Reprioritizing can really help you find that balance between work and family. But it’s still a tough gig!